Hurt people hurt people

Early on in my search for answers, I came across the information that narcissists and sociopath are made, while psychopaths are born. What does that mean? In essence, it means that a person who would, otherwise, be normal and have no brain anomalies, will become a narcissist through the influence of the environment and upbringing. […]
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Read the fine print

Your what?? We had known each other for a year and a half when it happened. I’ll get to that in a second. This relationship, for lack of a better term, was going on exclusively online at that point, but we talked every day, sometimes for hours on end. Plans were being made, we would […]
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Overt words of a covert narcissist

The covert narcissist – the wolf in sheep’s clothing – is, in my opinion, a bigger threat than the covert variety – and I’m definitely not the only one with this belief. You don’t see them coming, you are lured into their domains under the impression that they are helpless victims who just need to […]
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Communication styles and healing

“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear.” That’s the truth. You may have noticed throughout your life experience that, sometimes, we come in contact with valuable information that goes unnoticed or misunderstood. You go on your merry way and acquire more life experience. One day, you come across the exact same information you […]
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Nutrition and Healing – Series

For those of you who don’t know, I’m a certified health coach, but certifications aside, I’ve also been a long time informal learner on the topic of nutrition. Nutrition is one of the big building blocks of overall health and over the years I have become more and more aware of how this particularly influences […]
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What is love?

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. I’ll get to the specifics of the words above within the […]
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From frustration to empowerment

Today I want to talk about one of the many frustrating aspects related to narcissistic abuse. And one that goes beyond our personal experience. I’ve seen it over and over again in survivors who have seen the light and decided to put themselves out there to help others. And although I can’t speak for those […]
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Villages and Tribes

“It takes a village to raise a child.” Most of us are familiar with this saying, but it isn’t until we become parents that we fully grasp this concept. But I’d like to expand on this, and say that it also takes a good village to keep us all healthy, evolving and thriving human beings. […]
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Narcissists and karma

There’s a particular, overwhelming feeling that takes over us, survivors of narcissistic abuse, when we come to grasp the mind boggling, horrifying truth about the individual we were in a relationship with and the reach and depth of the damage inflicted upon us. You could refer to it as anger, powerlessness, hopelessness, hatred, vengefulness, sadness, […]
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Peeling off the layers of narcissistic abuse

Narcissistic abuse is a somewhat new topic to me. I was fully aware I had been in an abusive relationship, but also completely oblivious to the specifics of narcissistic abuse. It wasn’t until fairly recently that I stumbled upon the term and, all of a sudden, all the pieces of my puzzle came together, to […]
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